Attraction

Drawn, magnetized, pulled.  These are all words that describe attraction.  To me, these words are very physical.  Attraction is very physical.

Yes, there is physical attraction.  But there is emotional attraction, mental attraction, spiritual attraction, and I’m sure ways that we have never even thought of attraction.

I’m reminded of the movie, “Fatal Attraction”.  One of my favorite lines is when Glenn Close says “I will not be ignored!”  That is such a powerful statement because we all say that all the time.  Maybe we don’t make that statement but we do make it known that we won’t be ignored.  When our children are small and not paying attention to us, we physically move their face so that we can look them in the eye and tell them what we want them to know.  Most of the time they are still diverting their eyes away from ours to get back to the TV show or truck they were playing with.  Many times we will, again physically, pull our lover’s face into ours so that they can see what we are saying.  That is because many of us speak with our face, our eyes, our mouth, and our voice.  We want them to see it all, because it is important.

I have always wanted to walk into a room and all eyes fall on me.  You know, the stuff of movies.  But I wonder if the person that everybody is staring at even has a clue that everyone is looking at them.  I bet not.  I bet that later someone mentions it.  I bet that because many people who are attractive are not even aware of it.  I bet that.  And I really do like to look around and watch people watch other people.  I always wonder what makes them attractive to others.

Obviously, looks do.  I mean if you are a supermodel then you get the looks.  But I have seen pictures of these beauties without their hair and make-up done.  They’re not any more attractive than you and I.  So they have the advantage of hair and make-up.  I’ll bet that if we had professionals work on us we would be a whole lot more attractive than we are on a day to day basis.  There are days when I am really looking bad that I think with the right hair and make-up I would be as pretty as anyone on this planet.

Personality works too.  The more personable a person is the more others migrate towards them.  There are some really ugly people out there who have people hanging on their every word.  It’s because they have such a good personality.  They can put people at ease with ease.  A good personality goes a long way in attracting people to you.

Confidence is huge.  If you are a confident person, you don’t care if anyone is interested in you or not.  You are interested in you.  A confident person can move mountains.  It doesn’t matter because they are so much more aware of who they are than anyone else.  And obtaining confidence just takes practice.  My family loves The Voice.  We could watch it for hours on end.  And we do.  But the one thing that I’ve noticed is that the people who exude a huge amount of confidence are the ones who go farther in the competition than those who don’t have the confidence.  And there are times that the coaches tell the contestants to work on their singing and come back.  It seems that when they come back they are so much more confident than they were to begin with.

And then there are those who just ooze charisma.  Obviously those people attract others by the handful.  You can’t put your finger on why they are so attractive but you just gravitate to them.  I have always envied these people.  But I do think that we all have a certain amount of charisma and given the right conditions we are the ones that others are drawn to.  I believe that.  I think it goes with confidence and personality.  I have been in a room where someone has smiled and I immediately know that I want to know that person.  I don’t have a reason, I just want to.  I think that is charisma.

Can you learn to be more attractive?  I think so.  But I also think that it takes a determined decision to become attractive.  It’s a lot like Facebook.  I love to post to Facebook.  Sometimes I post just for myself but mostly I want to see what kind of reaction I’m going to get.  I will work hard for “likes” but am so excited when I get “comments”.  I want to see what others are saying about what I’m saying.

And you can try this in all categories of your life, wherever you are looking to be more attractive.  You have to try different things to see what works but once you find out you have developed a very powerful tool.