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If you asked 5 years ago about emoticons people would look at you like you were crazy. It does sound like a made-up word. There are lots of people out there that wouldn’t have a clue what you were talking about. But anyone younger than 30 knows all about them. They are usually faces made out of type that you use with emails and texts to let people know what you are feeling. A lot of people use those instead of verbalizing what they are feeling. So, yeah, emoticons are feelings via computer. Good definition.
Feelings and emotions are so necessary in our lives. Paying attention to others feelings and emotions are just as necessary. But in our fast-paced world where we are going 900 miles an hour it is easy to lose touch with the feelings of those closest to us, including us.
It is so important to have your emotions right. You have to have your feelings where they need to be or you’re not going to get anything you want.
I am an emotional person. I wear them on my sleeve, on my shoulder, on my chin, on my lap, all over. I don’t protect them. I leave them out there for all to see, to stomp on and to exploit. And when I get them hurt I allow everyone to see my pain. I hate that.
If I was to take that energy and put it toward what I want, what I want to get, then I could have the life that I want, and the attitude that I want. My emotions are exhausting whether they are good or bad. If I took all those hurt feelings and negative emotions and turned them round and put them into what I am wanting then I could have it today!
Why shouldn’t I? I deserve what I want, and so much more. My family deserves more of me. They deserve the happy-go-lucky person I am. I don’t know where that happy-go-lucky person went. I don’t know why I get so down and sad and worried and irritable and angry. I can’t stand those emotions. I don’t want those. How do we keep them out of our life?
I don’t like it and I don’t want people to see me emotional. These people don’t know me. They don’t need to see that side of me. I shouldn’t allow them to see me that vulnerable. I don’t want to be vulnerable around people who don’t know me and are stomping on or hurting my feelings.
So I have to do a couple of things:
1. Take control of my feelings. I need to take my emotions by the horn and lead them where I need them to go. I am in charge. I don’t need to allow my emotions to be charge. They are not logical and make me vulnerable. Additionally, I need to protect my emotions. If I don’t then I am guilty of abuse. My emotions make me feel like an eight year old girl. As an adult I need to take care of that little girl. (As the adult in this relationship I need to make sure that my baby girl is protected. As an adult I cannot allow temper tantrums, crying jags, or hiding in the closet. I have to bring her through the things that upset her.) But when she gets upset as an adult, I need to calm her down and hold her when she cries. I do this for my children so I know I can do this for me.
2. Stay positive. Oh, how I hate people who tell me to cheer up or that I need a positive attitude. I really want to tell those people to “eat shit and die”. Those people make me sick. I just want to kick them in the balls. What I usually do though is get my panties in a wad and stir the negative pot a lot more. Oh, I can be such a bitch. But I do need to stay positive. And the only way I’ll stay positive is to keep myself positive. I know how to do this. I can do it for other people. I just need to step out of the box that is me and do it for myself. I won’t be positive for anyone else, only for me. And I have to stay that way. I need all of that negative energy and put it to work for the things that I want. Got to.
3. WWOD? You know I hate to wonder what Oprah would do. I should go to a higher power but . . . Oprah is a phenomenal business woman. She’s got her act together on all fronts. You may not agree with who she is or what she does or what she stands for but you have to admit that she’s a hell of a business woman. And I’ll tell you what, it’s not much that gets her emotional. And she never gets emotional when it gets in the way of who she is and what she wants. We have all seen her get mad. I don’t think anyone wants her mad at them. But I don’t think I’ve ever seen her with her heart on her sleeve or not confident in who she is or what she does. This is because she is strong in who she is. I’m sure there are people who have questioned her but I don’t think they’ve done it more than once, unless she has absolute faith in them. So, why in the world can’t I, a woman who is strong, do the same? I think I have some answers for that:
a. I don’t let people in.
b. I don’t “announce myself with authority”. I don’t “bring the heat”. Because of that I don’t hit it out of the park.
c. I don’t either 1.) ignore those that bully or hurt my feelings or 2.) make sure they’re aware that they have hurt my feelings or that they are skirting on being a bully.
Identification is the first step. Now what’s keeping you from taking the next step? Faith? Confidence? Balls? You have all of these, don’t you. Use ’em.
Can you feel it? Can you feel it happening? If you can feel it, if you know what it feels like, then you are able to recognize it when you get what you want.
Power! Now, that’s what Oprah has that I need!
Here is a way to lift yourself up: close your eyes, take a deep death, take another one. What are you feeling? Is it what you want to be feeling? Get to what you want to be feeling, smile, breathe.
Questions for you:
1. How do you keep bad emotions out of your life?
2. What’s keeping you from taking the next step?